Birth Order Affects Your Relationships

I am the baby of my family and am I spoiled? Yea, a bit.

Did I often get my way when I was growing up? Yea.

Did I have my parents and then my three siblings looking out for my best interests at each and every turn in my life? Yea.

Did I absolutely feel the love while growing up? Yea.

So did my birth order in my family influence my personality and how I respond in relationships?

I would have to say Yea.

Clearly, I know that a romantic relationship will not be the same as the relationships I have with my family members, but I think that these very close relationships speak volumes of what I expect in a romantic relationship.

And I'm not alone with this mindset.

"While other factors, such as age, race, and gender, all play a role in shaping personality, research indicates that the number one factor influencing personality is birth order," according to www.birthorders.com.

We all know about sexual compatibility, but there is also such a thing as birth order compatibility.

So here are a few personality traits related to your birth order.

First borns are bossy, more conscientious, dominant, organized, confident. First borns are also reliable in relationships.

Middle borns are best at negotiating conflict, and who doesn't need that in a good relationship. They are usually flexible and sociable. They may even end up making the best partner because they haven't been spoiled.

Some of the personality traits of the last borns are agreeable, open to new experience, easy going, creative, observant and have diverse interests.

The youngest offers fun and excitement in a relationship. Yep, that's me.

But when I got to the part about last borns can often be manipulative in a relationship, I was deflated. boooo boooo boooo!

But who makes the best mate according to birth order? Hmmmm.

Only children are somewhat like first borns but they are serious and dependable and more aloof. They also expect to receive special circumstances around them. They will often find great success in school and in their careers.

After all of my reading, it appears that only children and first borns pair good with last borns and middle borns. Shoot, I think middle borns are great with any birth order.

Two last borns are just a ball of fun and excitement and likely won't do well together. Last borns should marry a first born or middle born or an only child.

And two first borns will argue constantly.

So now, I need to ask about a suitor's love language (Read about love languages), if he has a relationship with Christ (Read about praying), and ummm are you the oldest or only child?

Based on birth order information, I should not be divorced so I'm on the phone right now to the Birth Order Institute of America to file a grievance. LOLOL

But what do you think about the connection between birth orders and relationships? Do the traits fall in line with your birth order and personality? Have you dated a particularly birth order that you want to stay way away from?

Share your comments here or e-mail me at choosingmrwrong@gmail.com.