Women Do Not Want A 50/50 Relationship

One of my Facebook friends asked, Do women want a relationship that is 50/50?

I responded, No!

He then asked what do women want?

So I responded, "A partner who somehow has figured out a way to finesse authority without being dominant...a provider who will ensure that his significant other is OK, emotionally, physically etc...a gentleman who will, if not always, open a door to make her feel adored...a man who will show her his complexities without appearing weak :) OK, that's just the first paragraph of a 5-page paper LOLOLOLOL"

But seriously, a lot of women say that they want a relationship that is 50/50 when they really don't. That is 50/50 financially.

A woman, at least women like me who were raised by both parents and a father who was a true provider, want a man to take the lead with everything. Yep, I said it...EVERYTHING!

What woman wants to be out working like a dog to make sure the bills are met? Then clean the house, care for the kids, wash clothes, cook meals? A fool! LOLOLOL

Well at least I don't want to have to do all that ... and this here girl ain't scared to admit it.

I want a HEAD OF HOUSEHOLD...not just for tax purposes but for everyday purposes. A woman should be a man's helpmate. And yea, he should help out around the house with chores, but I'm old fashioned...what he does is just icing on the cake...just makes a relationship better.

*Hand in air --- BOOOM!!!!

Do you think most women want a 50/50 financial relationship?

Your Sig Other Has To Make You Feel Comfy

It is amazing to me how much you learn the longer you live. My father always would tell me, "Keep Living," when I would not know about something or be amazed that someone actually did something I found to be unappealing.

And now I do believe that I finally know what he meant.

While watching a movie, yea a Lifetime movie, something really hit me. The guy said, "I like the way I feel when I'm with you." The girl didn't think she was worthy because she was a bit frumpy and overweight, but she was smart, witty and a helluva writer.

But when he said, "I like the way I feel when I'm with you," my antenna rose. I've heard that a man falls in love with the way a woman makes him feel, but I've never even been interested in what makes the woman fall in love. And while women and men are always discussing our differences, this is where I think we may have more in common than we actually realize. I think a woman falls in love with the way that a man makes her feel.

But it's more than buying flowers, going on dates, rubbing her feet, listening to her and catering to her. I think it has something to do with being able to reveal yourself 100 percent -- the good, the bad and the indifferent and not feel judged.

And heck, if that's not what women think, I think it!!!!

One of the worst characteristics in a man in a human is being so critical and judgemental as if there is nothing wrong with the person doing the judging. Sweep around your own doorstep first...yea, my mom says that LOLOLOLO

But what I guess I'm really trying to point out is there is a certain level of comfort with a person who isn't sooooooo quick to judge, a person who will let you figure out the errs of your way in your own time, a person who will pick you up when you fall on your face and yep, it was your fault.

I've written a bunch of posts on physical characteristics....He can't be this height and his teeth can have a crossword puzzle going on....LOLOLOL...that he should have nice arms....owwwww, yes goodness I like nice arms....and yeppers I still like all that, yep, I do....but the most important quality is my comfort level.

Can I bear all and feel comfy?
Can I leave my zit cream on my face accidentally and not be embarassed?
Can I poot...only by accident, cause ladies do that sort of thing in private....LOLOLOL
Can I laugh at myself and not feel like he is laughing at me but laughing with me?
Can I say I'm scared?
Can he see that I'm junky, yep, I'm junky, and not tell me what I need to do?

Yea, the longer I live the more I learn. I just wish that I the importance of character qualities much earlier. Character qualities such as, patience, kindness, humility, understanding, sincerity, attentiveness, gentleness, honesty and faithfulness are essentially the foundation to a good relationship, to a great comfort level.

How important is it for you to feel comfortable with your sig other? Do you feel you can share just about anything and not be judged? Or do you hold back?

I Don't Know When To Let Go!

I have come to a conclusion about something. I do NOT know when to let go.

I don't know when to let go in relationships.

For some odd reasons, there can be many signs but I keep on going just like nothing is going on. Yea, I have to admit also that I don't like to rock the boat. I don't like conflict. I looooove peace so sometimes this comes at a great expense.

I have made a few, only a few, decisions in my lifetime that caused me to let go, and still when I decided to let go -- I second guessed myself.

It must be the indecisive Libra in me.

But I have made a commitment to myself to begin to weigh the good and the bad and then begin to pitch...as in the gawbage LOLOLOL Get gone. Goodbye!

I have dated a few guys -- who I knew with every stitch in me -- were SELFISH. Not just the typical I gotta look out for myself selfish but that SUPA SELFISHNESS.

I second guessed myself. Oh, Darlene, don't be so quick to judge. Give this fella a chance. Fuhget that!

When my mind and my gut tells me that something is about to go awry or going awry, it's time to put on my tall boots and get outta that shiddd LOLOLOLO

When do you know that it's time to let go?

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Going Through A Separation, Divorce Ain't Easy

I have a relative who is getting ready to go through a very difficult patch in her life. She is separated from her husband.

When I hear about separation or divorce, my heard goes out...way out to the people involved. Going through a separation or divorce ain't easy. I know!

I remember when one of my gfs gave me a book, "Growing Through Divorce." At first I looked at it and really didn't want to start reading it, but one day I grabbed it and soon read it from cover to cover. It really helped because it put things in perspective and it made me realize that I wasn't the first and will not be the last to experience a divorce.

The book also talked about how EVERYTHING in your life changes. What you used to do, you do not do anymore? Your daily routine changes? Your living situation changes? Your sleeping situation changes? (Ya know some people just like a warm body lying next to them at night.)

My relative told me that she needs help. Those were her exact words, "Help Me!" My eyes grew misty. My heart skipped a beat. I had a few flashbacks of my very own divorce, which I'm not ashamed to say just about broke me. I knew it wasn't a good marriage during the end, but I was hoping that somehow, some way it could be salvaged. The convenant that I made before my family, friends and God was something else that bothered me tremendously. Breaking that vow made me disappointed in myself.

So when my relative said, "Help Me!" I searched my heart on exactly how I could help. I cannot have a very strong opinion one way or the other. That is not my place. All I can say to her is, "Being happy is precious and important." I can also say that "Peace is a wonderful thing."

I know that the divorce rate is over 50 percent and people jump in and out of marriages like it's nothing...can you say Kim Khardasian... but marriage should not be taken lightly -- getting into it or getting out of it.

What is the hardest thing about going through a divorce or (a break-up if you are not married)?