Single Doesn't Equal Unhappiness During Holidays

It's normal for singles to experience extra anxiety or feelings of loneliness during the holiday season.

Family members and friends will likely ask singles who you are dating or are you seriously dating anyone?

Pressure!

Singles are bombarded with photos of the happy couple or happy family sitting around the perfectly decorated dinner table that features all of the most delicious food. And oh yea, they are usually wearing the cutest little matching or color coordinated outfits.

Pressure!

Commercials usually don't feature the single woman sipping a cup of hot chocolate enjoying the holidays. But who says that if you are single that you are supposed to mope around all depressed and pitiful? And who's to say that couples are actually experiencing all the marital bliss of a healthy, happy and fulfilling relationship that is being portrayed?

There is someTHING that comes with being single or being married. Don't get me wrong, I believe that there are couples who are happy, but being single doesn't automatically equal unhappiness and being married or committed doesn't automatically equal happiness.

Being happy is a decision that needs to be made each and everyday regardless of your relationship status.

EXCUSE ME! *steps on soapbox* I am sooooo tired of this mindset because many women are secretly suffering, thinking that if they find HIM that all will be well with the world. *steps off soapbox*

NO! YOUR happiness is YOUR decision. But OK, just say that HE comes. You have really high expectations of him. Essentially, you are asking him to do something for you that you can't even do for yourself. Heck, you might as well give him a contract, detailing all that he will need to do to make you happy.

That sounds silly, doesn't it? It sure does, but I get it. I get it! Yea, I get it!

We want someone to share our lives with, to talk to, to be there for us during difficult times, during good times, to laugh with, to have sex with...all that.

But if you are a moping, down-and-out type of single, do not spend another holiday season thinking about your relationship status. So what you aren't married. So what you haven't found "The One." So what you have just broken up with "him" and you really thought he was "The One."

You have to make a decision and you should make it RIGHT NOW! Do you want to live a happy and healthy life or do you just want to be "in a relationship" because you do not want to be lonely? Please, please, please know that alone and lonely are two different things. And if no one has ever told you, you can feel quite lonely in a relationship.

I say enjoy life exactly where you are! If you are single, enjoy being single. Take this time to focus on YOU -- the most important person in the world. And then, there is the law of attraction.

You attract what you are.

SINGLE LADIES, if you want to learn some coping skills and positive thinking techniques to use during the holidays, attend Choosing Mr. Wrong's Group Coaching Session at the Henn Mansion in Euclid, Ohio, on Dec. 6th at 1:30 p.m. The discussion will begin promptly at 2 p.m. Admission is $25. Mimosas, coffee, pastries and sandwiches will be served.

Get your ticket at www.eventbrite.com. If you are one of the first 15 ladies to secure a spot, you will receive FREE admission to Part 1 of a Conscious Dating series that will begin in January. Conscious Dating is a self-discovery journey on what you need to be fulfilled in a relationship. It is a 4-Part Series.