I have seen a few situations when a man or a woman had to come clean about cheating. Tyically, it's when they have been cooooold busted and they can't deny it any longer.
There are a lot of hurt feelings involved. One of my family members, I don't think, has ever gotten over her husband having a baby with another woman in the beginning of their marriage.
Another one of my friends seemed to be stricken with a physical ailment when she found out her husband was cheating on her and he confirmed it. I remember seeing her and she was laying in the floor and her pain was palpable. I felt it. I cried too.
Being honest can hurt and help a relationship. In both of the aforementioned cases, the marriages are still a truckin :)
But then there was a moment in another situation involving cheating that the woman wanted to know details. Did you do this to her? Did you do that to her?
It pained me to hear that she wanted to hear the deeeeeetails, so I told her don't pain yourself even more hearing all of those details. The details may end up haunting you if you try to make your relationship work.
I never really understood why she wanted to know the details. I would keep details as far away from my mind as possible if I knew fo sho fo sho that someone had cheated on me. I don't wanna know. In fact, just take that information to the grave with you.
Even Tiger Woods wife, Elin, comes to mind. All those unnecessary details of how freaky he was. Really, what does that do? Why do the details matter?
But would you ever admit that you have cheated on someone? And if someone told you that they cheated on you, would you want details of the sexcapades?
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