Signs He May Be On The DL

I love reading E. Lynn Harris' books but after I read them I become seriously paranoid. Harris' books deal with men who are on the down low. These are men who seemingly like women but sleep with men too. It is a big problem in the African-American community.

But while reading the book, "Basketball Jones," I started thinking about the pregnant wife who didn't know that her husband was sneaking off to sleep with an openly gay man. Wow! That really is something to kill someone over. It's the highest level of deceit and for what?

Any who.

The man, as described in the book, was athletic, nice looking and any woman's dream man. He wasn't even described in a gay way, meaning in the way he gestured or talked or any of the stereotypical stuff.

Sooooo this got me to thinking long and hard. How the heckypoo can a woman spot a man who is only using her to deceive the world because he really likes sleeping with men?

This question sent me in a tailspin because the more I thought about it, the more I felt like there was't an answer that would even be good enough to explain such craziness.

I can understand that a person can be attracted to the same sex and is trying to deal with the whole situation as a teen. And heck, I am not judging people who are gay. The bible says Judge Thee Not, sooooo Imma do as I'm told.

But to be a full grown man and not be completely honest with yourself and even your sexual partner is just too much, too much, too much. Why? Grow up and deal with your reality.

But then I go back to thinking about the signs. Is it the way he talks? Is it the way he walks? Is it that he has that one really cooooool supa coooool friend? Is it that he prefers to be around men A LOT?

Wow, it makes me shake in my boots just thinking about that type of crazy deception. Being on the DL is truly a cowardly approach to life and sexuality, and I am hoping that I have never run into or will run into a man who is such a fraud.

But are there signs that someone is on the DL?