There are some things about me that are soooo deeply ingrained and sooooo old fashioned that sometimes I have to pause and say danggone why do I feel that way?
Recently, I spent some time with a friend at one of his relative’s home.
I was a bit uncomfy and my friend tried to make me feel a little better about it all with a little bit of success.
My parents are really traditional and do not believe in people staying in their home in the same bed unless they are married.
This typically applied for people in their 20s.
But what the heck do you do when you are grown, ummm real grown? Hmmmm.
Go with the flow I guess.
My friend clearly thought that I was trippin' so I took a step back and realized this is the way I was raised. That’s why I feel like a fish out of water.
But what about diggity in a relative’s home and you are not married?
Awww Schucks. Danggone.
My morals and my parents were tuggin' at me. Morals and parents sittin' on one shoulder and I don't know what that was on the other. But I was listening to all of them.
OK, I’ve snuck before when I was younger. But why do I still feel like a young girl trying to sneak?
The whole phenomenon made me laugh at myself.
But then I have to remember, that a person’s family really shapes them. Probably even more than I realized.
The way I act. The way I eat. The way I talk. The way I argue. The way I show affection.
After I just accepted that I am what I am what I am what I am, I said thanks. And then said let’s get on the floor because I don’t want the bed to make any noise. LOLOLOLOL
Yes, a grown woman on the floor.
How does your family feel about couples who are not married staying together? Is my family the last of the Mohicans of traditionalist? Do you feel crazy sneaking to have diggity in a relative’s home?
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You know, I feel the exact same way. My parents taught me the same principles. Actually, I was living with my ex fiance once and had just had my son and my parents came to help with everything. I felt so dirty for them staying the night and me sleeping in the bed with my ex fiance. I really wanted to sleep on the couch but my ex couldn't understand where I was coming from. The whole " only if your married" thing. What is that about? I mean, it's not like we were going to have sex that night, but it was obvious that we did have sex because I had a newborn to prove it. I guess it's about appearence. Who knows, but those deep southern baptist roots run deep.
ReplyDeleteDeep! Queen. They run deep! Thanks for reading the post.
ReplyDeleteI take it by "friend" you mean that you are not in a relationship with this person. Hmmm, this is a hard one then because maybe the reason you didn't feel comfy doing the dirty in this person's relatives' home was because you weren't in a relationship with this person and the familiarity wasn't there in the first place. As a grown woman having to do it on the floor to avoid making noise this would make the situation feel even worse because now you feel like you're sneeking around and why should you be, it's not like you're 16 right? Right. Myself coming from a not so strict single parent home can totally see why your situation would feel akward and ahemmm dirty it would for me too. We all have do things we wish we could change and this has to have been an experince to reflect on and if you still regret it just don't repeat it.
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