Ladies, Become Your Man’s Biggest Cheerleader

There are four Cs to showing your love to a woman -- cut, clarity, carat and color.

Hey, Beyonce says put a rang :) on it. And ummm make that a pretty one.

But there are supposedly four Cs to loving a black man according to an article on blackplanet.com.

I really hate to write about black men specifically, but they are special needs :) And so are black women.

I do, however, believe that all women can learn from the following tips.

Being a CONSPIRATOR. This means setting him up for greatness.

Uplift him. Compliment him. Cook for him. Make him feel real good about himself, particularly when he may be down.

Then there is CO-PASTOR. The explanation of this in the article was a bit confusing but I think it means basically a woman is supposed to pray for her husband/man when he isn’t praying for himself.

Yep, yep, yep. My mom did this. But the next go round, I really want somebody who believes in praying and is seeking HIM.

Shoot, I want him to be more steadfast about his faith than me. If that’s wrong, well...

The third one mentioned in the article is CONDITIONER. This one got me to really thinking. A conditioner detangles. It alleviates dandruff. Brings gloss. It heals.

Whew! That's deep.

And the fourth C is be a CHEERLEADER.

Whew! Good googly moogly.

It says, "Every woman involved with a black man has to learn how to be a cheerleader. A cheerleader is of no consequence when the team is winning. When the team has scored a touch down, you can’t hear the cheerleaders because the whole stadium is ecstatic and excited. Cheerleaders are necessary after a tackle, a hit or an injury. Every black man yearns to have somebody on the sidelines who will cheer for him when he’s not making progress." Read the article.

I shared this with someone and he asked me to repeat myself several times because he is silly.

But really black women need to repeat this, "I need to be a cheerleader even when the team isn’t winning."

I think we, and don’t get mad y’all, give up sometimes too soon on something that may be really good. It may have something to do with black women trying to be so take charge, let me do this. I can do this better.

And there’s nothing wrong with being Ms. Independent, but also we need to try to be Ms. I Got Yo Back. It’s unconditional support. It’s unconditional love.

Hmmmm. I’m just sayin...

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