Date Only Within Your Race?

When dating, should you seek out people who are of the same race?

Hmmm.

About two years ago, one of my family members told me of a guy she was dating. He’s nice. We have so much fun together.

She grabbed her phone and showed me a pic.

“He’s white,” she says as if she was bracing me before the pic popped up.

“Well, ahright. A redhead white boy, get down!” I say and laugh.

I’m not sure if she was seeking my approval but I reassured her quickly.

“Sweetheart, I don’t care if he is purple. If you like him? I like him. Heck, I love him. The most important thing to me is that he is good to you.”

But I think the oddity of the relationship finally got the best of them. In addition to dealing with cultural differences and regular relationship hassles, they had to deal with strange looks from people when they would go out together. And I have never dated outside my race, but I imagine that would be tough?

Heck, I would probably become a bit indignant. “You’ve never seen a black woman with a white man,” I would likely say to staring onlookers.

I might get really frustrated and do some things that I shouldn’t even admit that I would do.

Any who.

My other friend told me that she was dating a white guy and then asked me if I spat out my water?

“No, girl, I did not.”

She had an excitement about her when she spoke of the guy that I found interesting. She seemed very happy and did I assume he was black, yea, I did. But does it really matter? I don’t think so.

And in both of these situations, it is a black woman with a white man.

I’m not sure if society in general and black people specifically are more forgiving of this type of relationship.

Because of what many black women call a shortage of good black men because of jail, homosexuality, etc., there seems to be more disdain for a black man – white woman relationship.

To that end, I have a friend who shared with me that black women always look at him like he is a sellout.

“Well, that’s their problem. Fudge them. You didn’t set out to fall in love with a white woman so forget them,” I told him without batting an eye.

Again, I’ve never dated outside my race so it’s clearly easier said than done. Would I date outside my race, yea, I think so. Maybe a bit for curiosity, but isn’t that why we choose to date the people we date?

And honestly, I've never seen a white DI in person. This might be on my list of things to do before I die. LOLOLOLO

I have to admit I have more of an attraction to white guys with dark features. Delish!

So would you date outside your race or have you? Do you think black women have more of a problem with interracial relationships? Or are white women just as resentful when seeing an interracial couple? Do you look at interracial couples differently? Be honest, do you give a double take?

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