Listen And Learn

Some things have to be asked directly, but sometimes it is necessary to just shut yo mouf and listen.

Listen carefully, I mean really intently, to what a suitor says and he or she will tell you more than you ever will learn by asking a question directly.

But if you happen to ask a question directly and he or she gets all upset and bent out of shape, more than likely the person is offended because he or she has something to hide.

I mean think about it. Duh, they are defensive because he or she has something to be defensive about.

Anywho.

I’m trained to listen and over the years, my listening skills have sharpened. My interviewing skills have also improved. I get people to tell me way more than I need to know and this is good. It’s always better to have too much than not enough when I sit down to write a story.

On dates, on the phone or in texts, I learn to listen, well read with texts.

When guys talk about previous relationships, I inquire and then I listen. I hang on to every word.

When guys talk about their families, I listen. I listen for the frequency that they talk about their family members, too. I listen for disdain when they talk about family members.

Heck, one’s family has shaped them into who they are so if you have the luxury of going to a family function, forget about the outfit. Put on your glasses and clean the wax out of your ears and check out the landscape. You will learn why he or she acts that way.

I listen to previous experiences. Has he traveled? What does he get excited about when he talks? Does he like his job? What’s his passion?

This may sound awful, but I listen for illnesses --- diabetes, hypertension, high cholesterol – because I don’t want to be involved with someone with a dead DI. These illnesses require medications that often kill DIs and desire.

Now, I’m not soooo cold that if I were to find out someone that I really like or love had one of the aforementioned illnesses that I would pack my bags, but errr uhhh, I’m really not trying to date someone who is already poppin’ pills.

Nope don’t want to be a nurse.

One of my gfs tells me I sure have my eyes open to everything and I do. I don’t miss a thing.

Are you a good listener? Do you think you can learn a lot from a person if you just listen to what they say?

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