Hello, Meet My Representative

"Hello, my name is Darlene," I will say when I first meet a person, but are they really meeting Darlene.

Yea, folks may get a sense of my personality and if more questions are asked and time spent, one may learn more about me, but is it really me or the me that I want people to see.

I went on a date with a guy who believed in telling a lot, yea, a lot.

And because I like to listen to folks, I listened. He told me things about his childhood and how he thought he had to fight for attention. He told me about a previous relationship that was teetering on emotional abuse. He told me that he never touched the hair of a woman that he lived with.

Yep, ladies it was weave. Get that weave outcho hair so your man can touch your hair, but I digress.

When I told him that he sure reveals a lot, he said there's no need in you meeting my representative and then meeting me later.

Hmmmm, he's right.

While talking to some friends recently, the topic of meeting a person's representative came up again.

The representative is best described as revealing only the good, only the confident and well-adjusted person.

But how long does it take to really get to know a person or do you ever? I hear married couples who have been together for years saying, I'm still learning things.

Soooo, is it only natural to reveal the good things about yourself to a suitor.

I see dating a bit like interviewing, so I wouldn't dare go into an interview and reveal my shortcomings. If I get the job, however, the supervisor is sure to learn more about me -- the good and bad.

But it may not be the best idea for me to go to the interview and say I really don't like sharing my workspace, although I really don't. I hate to come back to my desk and my TV is changed, my computer monitor is tilted and my chair is readjusted. Hate that!

But because I dislike it so much it would likely come out after getting the job.

When dating, I reveal the considerate, nice, understanding Darlene to suitors. They will eventually find out that I am not pleasant when upset, but who is?

Sooooo are you meeting the real person or a representative when dating? Do you reveal a lot about yourself soon? And how long does it actually take to really know a person? And for my married peeople, do you ever really know a person?

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