Thoughtless On Thanksgiving

I made a terrible mistake on Thanksgiving.

I took the guy that I amdating to my cousin's home for Thanksgiving dinner.

That doesn’t seem too bad, right?

Well, wrong.

My cousin and I have been a bit distant over recent years. Growing up, we were inseparable. She’s two years older than me so I loved being around her. Heck, I looked up to her and thought she was supa cool.

Additionally, I was a Catholic school girl and she was a public school student. As a teen, that gained folks immediate COOOOL points.

Any who.

She texted me and said she was going to have Thanksgiving dinner and invited me over. I was excited.

I tell my new beau about the plans. We were gonna go to my cousin's, my sister's and my mother's. Christmas Eve is when we all get together as a family so that’s why both my sister and mother were cooking on Thanksgiving.

We take a mini trip to the other side of town to get to her home and I'm excited as ever to see her. She introduces me to her husband. He seems OK, but I did notice that he talked about having to get up at 3 a.m. to go to work immediately.

I tease him and try to keep things light and fun and say, "We are going to eat and run."

I chuckled and I noticed that he didn't. Still, I don't let his attitude or what seemed to be an attitude rub off on me.

But then before things got better, they got worse.

He told me that if something happened to my cousin, I wouldn’t find out for a week. He asked why did I get a divorce and when I gave my generic standard answer, "Things didn’t work out" he kept prying.

Ummm, yea I felt a bit uncomfy at that point and I couldn't imagine what my new beau was thinking.

Finally, I decided it was time for us to go. I finish sipping on the drink she had given me and I thank her for the invitation and tell them to get some rest for work the next day and sprint for the door.

Once in the car, me and my beau agree it was definitely uncomfortable and that my cousin's hubby wasn’t at all welcoming or friendly.

We get to my mom's house and I tell her about the incident and she said, "I should have known better." UUmmmmm, wow! But I took the gut shot.

My mom continues to tell me that on Thanksgiving you want to be around the people that you are most thankful to have in your life -- the people who have prayed for you and encouraged you and been nice to you! My mom is a straight-shooter. But she hit me with gut shot after gut shot.

After she finished, I think about it and determine that I actually agreed with her assessment. What the heck was I thinking?

I made a terrible Turkey Day mistake. Have you been around relatives on holidays who were just plain rude and unfriendly?