Toast To Getting Over A Breakup

Getting over a breakup can be tough, particularly as the holiday season approaches.

I talked with one of my good friends about a recent breakup and her feelings as we get ready to kick off the 2009 holiday season.

She spent the past few years with him and it’s going to take some getting used to that they are not together. Additionally, he has moved on in a major way. Ummmm, he has a new girl in his life and has gone as far as to say he loves her.

Heck, he even has said he would marry her. Mind you, he was diametrically opposed to marrying my gf.

Any who.

As I talk to her, I can feel her pain. I can feel the fear she has about what the future holds for her in the relationship department. I can feel her apprehension about how to maintain relationships she developed with others while with him. I can feel the hurt over him moving on soooo quickly.

I’ve been there, so immediately I take the opportunity to tell her my thoughts.

You will feel better tomorrow, and better next week and next month even better. By next year, you will be a brand new version of yourself -- better, better, oohhh sooo better.

I remind her how just over a year ago, how I was devastated about the fall of my marriage. I remind her how I wouldn’t change a thang. Nope, not one thing.

I am soooo much more happier and God has blessed me with a peace that I never knew existed. I don’t even know how to explain the peace that I have. Really!

She listens and then tells me something put it on her heart to call me and share her feelings with me. And goes further to say that she knew that I would have something good to say to get her back on track.

And that’s fo sho, fo sho, fo sho.

We talk about how she thought dealing with someone new may help her get over the pain she feels. The pain will definitely go away, but then I tell her as long as you do not mislead any one, do whatever you would like to do. You can date!

I know that people have many tips to get over a breakup, but the most important thing to do as far as I’m concerned is to pray for a healed hurt. I did. And ummm, and don’t judge me, I had several dates with Chardy Chard.

What is the best way to get over a breakup?