Ladies, Being Nice Can Get You Wedding Ring

Nice is one of my short list must-haves, so I was shocked when I read that nice is the No. 1 reason that men pick women to be their wives.

Hmmmm, nice. Is that really it?

Rachel Greenwald, the author of "Why He Didn’t Call You Back: 1,000 Guys Reveal What They Really Thought About You After Your Date," and bestseller author of "Find A Husband After 35," interviewed hundreds of men and found NICE to be the No. 1 deciding factor on his list.

Greenwald said the men recalled moments when their wives were nice, kind, thoughtful or considerate.

I can see a woman with a stank attitude not really being a good choice. Yea, I can see that. Who really wants to be around someone who is funky or mean?

Heck, who wants to be around a mean guy.

But I have to say that when I jetted back onto the dating scene, one of the most popular questions asked of me was "Can you cook?"

And cooking is important because the old adage says, "The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach."

But back to nice.

It would seem that falling in love or even loving a nice person would be easy.

After all, people usually fall in love based on how they feel with a person.

But because nice just didn’t seem to be enough, I had to dig deeper.

And because my logic leads me to believe that a man has be in love to get married or to ask for a woman's hand in marriage I seek out information about falling in love.

I found out that there are three factors involved when a person falls in love. Smell, love pheromones and the brain.

Smell, ummm, that one is a bit self explanatory. It's that scent that just causes heads to turn or that nice scent that makes you wanna bury your head and just sniffy sniff.

Love pheromones are invisible signals. They are unsmellable but these signals enter the brain and it's over. You have fallen and can't get up.

But then the smell can be right so right and the love pheromones can be flying but then the brain and its chemicals have to be right.

So when old folks told you that being in love was all in your head, they were right. It is.

And you know the song, "I can't make you love me."

Well, turns out it's really true. If someone isn't in love with you, he or she just is not.

It might be that the smell is off or the pheromones aren't flying or the brain chemicals are no longer producing that good feeling.

And they just don't love you.

Oh, and did you know that the brain of a person in love looks like the brain of an addict? Yes, an addict!

They just gotta have it. They just gotta have you, so it's no guessing.

One of the things about love is you can feel it. Sooooo, if you are guessing well, well, well -- no matter how good you smell -- it's not love.

Do you think you can feel love? What makes a person not be sure that someone loves them? Does nice seem to be too basic for causing a man to fall in love? What causes people to fall in love?

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