I don’t know why it bothers me, but I get really irritated when I’m out with a guy and he asks me, "Do you have any singles?"
"No, I do not," is usually my answer.
It's usually being asked to pay the tip or pay something.
Plus, if he has a five-dollar bill, he has singles. He just needs to ask for change. That’s the way I see it.
I’m not really sure what this indicates. Sometimes I think it is a sign of cheapness.
Other times, I think he just doesn’t know any better. His dad or men in his life must not have told him that when he is on a date, he should treat a lady like a lady and ummm part of that is not asking her for singles.
One of my craziest dating experiences was having someone give me a $5 bill.
Hold on, hold on.
He folded it like a ring and put it on my finger. No lie.
I thought it was very sweet. Wow, how sweet I thought it was. Corny but sweet.
But those good feelings didn’t last long.
As soon as we got into the cab to come home, he looked over at me and said can I get that 5 so that I can pay the driver.
Uggh! Ugggh! Uggggggh!
I turned on my phony baloney smile and gave him the $5 bill, but I was soooo turned off. Good thing we were getting ready to go home cause I was like yuckola.
How are you gonna give me a money ring and then ask for it to pay for the cab ride?
I do something that my bf disagrees with. I usually don't say anything. I don’t mutter a word.
Yea, I’m outspoken but sometimes it’s just best to keep your mouf closed so that you can learn.
You can learn a lot about a person by just observing and listening.
Plus, if I end up saying something does that really change the way I feel when a guy asks me for singles.
I tell my gf that dating and how a guy treats a woman on a date is a precursor to things to come. It shows how a man will provide or protect a woman -- period.
If he treats you like a lady, by opening doors, helping you with your coat or sweater, pulling out the seat for you, ordering your food for you, those are signs of good things, heck, great things to come.
If he allows you to walk closest to the curb, asks you if you will pick up the tab, wants you to drive him around and asks for singles, be cautious.
Well I’m cautious.
Have you ever been asked or do you ask for singles while on a date? Does it bother you? Do you help a woman with her coat? Are you turned off when a guy asks you to pay the tab?
Share your comments or e-mail me at choosingmrwrong@gmail.com.
Jeter
ReplyDeletemoney is dirty. Don't let people make rings out of their filthy bills and put them on your finger.
I don't mind paying the tip or contributing to it. I tend to order expensive entrees. I treated dude to sushi at one of my fav restaurants that is also very expensive. I made him pay the tip. I was kinda annoyed when he got hungry later and I ended up buying wings..... But I can appreciate a healthy appetite
Frizzy,
ReplyDeleteSometimes I'll pay and sometimes I'll pay the tip, but I like to just do it and not be asked. And yea the money ring was yuckola with germs but I didn't think about that! Good thing it didn't stay on that long cause I might have had to get my finger amputated LOLOLOL
To both, I ain't paying for nothing. Date..entree..drink..nothing. That's the man's job. Yep I said it. The man's job. Now if we are in a relationship..down the line I will pay for things but they are very limited. LOL. As for the guy asking for his $5 ring back--have a guy get you water for dinner then we will talk. LOL. Yep, still not over it!
ReplyDeleteE Cash,
ReplyDeleteI'm with you but if I like I guy I will start to contribute a bit, but I'm quite tradtional in this respect. :) And get ovah da water situation. Let's throw water balloons at dude LOLOLOLOLOL
et al
ReplyDeleteI just learned that I make more money than dude. Would that change your mind about paying?
Nah, not for me. Good things worth sacrificing for :)
ReplyDeleteWow, sorry ladies I had to jump in on this one, despite my untimeliness! This guy ASKED ME OUT on a date a while back and I went. 1st thing that caused my attitude to shift was that dude was staring at the check waay too long. I mean, if there's a discrepancy, let's handle it tactfully, but that wasn't it. He was looking like he was just flabbergasted at the total! We were at the Cheescake, and I didn't go overboard, I don't even think I had alcohol!! Anyhow, he finally pulls out his card to pay, and then asks me if I have any money!!! I'm like, WTF?! I promptly said no. He wanted me to pay the tip. I'm like you DJ, if I want to do it, let me do it on my own volition, not because you tryna toss a fishing pole in my purse on the slide!!! LOL, well, needless to say, that was our last encounter, but then I saw him several months later at a club and he asked me to buy him a drink. I just started laughing, and he was like, "com'mon, I know you got paid today." This dude is a straight bum as far as I'm concerned. You can't expect to get anywhere with me if you don't even know my last name or address and already hitting me up for cash!!
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