Breaking News! Breaking News!
Love is not enough to keep a marriage happy and healthy.
Yep, a study of about 2,500 couples found that love may cause two people to be together but it will not make their relationship last.
Interestingly, the research is entitled, "What’s Love Got To Do With It."
I’m sure the study cost a lot of money and I could have given them the information for half price.
Any who.
The researcher says it found that a husband who is nine or more years older than his wife is twice as likely to get divorced, as are husbands who get married before they turn 25.
Children also influence the longevity of a marriage or relationship.
A couple’s parents play a role in the relationship and not necessarily because a woman may not get along with her mother-in-law. It’s based on the parents relationship and if they have ever separated or divorced.
Well, I think this really matters, but my parents have been married for 50 years. I have three siblings and two of them have been married for more than 20 years and my oldest sister got a divorce and remarried.
So I guess there still may be hope for me.
But whew, the study also found that people in their second or third marriage are more likely to separate than people in their first marriage.
Yea, I could have used the cashola.
I really could have told them this.
After a divorce, the tolerance for bull shiggidy drops to zero. For me, I’m sure. Yes, I know fo sho, fo sho, fo sho that some things I just ain’t dealing with.
Get it! Got it! Good!
I think a good marriage has a lot of components, but most of all I think it requires a forgiving heart and eager ears. It involves nurturing and caring and excitement and laughing and a lot of sex.
But then one part of the study made me scratch my head.
If you smoke you are more likely to have a relationship end in failure. What the fudge? What does smoking have to do with it?
Now, I can see drinking because people speak da trufe when drunked up.
I banned myself from drinking Vodka during my marriage because Vodka was the truth juice. Heck, my most honest thoughts entered my mind after a few shots of Vodka. And ummm, sometimes came out in a not-so-nice manner.
And then the study goes on to say that the woman’s employment status and the number of years the couple have been employed don’t play a role.
What! What! What!
A J-O-B gotta make a difference in whether a marriage or live-in situation fails or succeeds. Ummm, ummm, ummm the researchers must not have heard of "No romance without finance."
What do you think of this study? What is the most important characteristic of a successful marriage in your mind? What does it look like?
Share your comments with me here or e-mail me at choosingmrwrong@gmail.com.
You didn't drink vodka for 13 years? Wow. Smoke is an eventual deal breaker for me. Not at first but it will always end. My parents are remarried to two great people. I still cannot figure out how they got together. Their spouse are so perfect for each them. There is one thing my step parents have in common. They are both talkers. I talk to them more when I visit than to my own parents. So, I must say the ability to communicate is most important.
ReplyDeleteOh nah, I did drink Vodka but I had to ban myself. And yea communication is key. I neglected to put that in there :)
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