Mother's Day Gift: Dating Advice From Mom

Whenever I have relationship problems I am quick to pick up the phone and call my mother. I did it when I was married and I still do it.

Many times, she will listen intently and then give the most concise of advice.

Darlene, you know what will make you happy.

Darlene, the way you find a man is the way he is going to be.

Darlene, try to change what you do to get a different response.

So I found the following e-mail from www.datewithoutdrama.com interesting because it offered advice that others have received from their mother over the years.


THE BEST DATING ADVICE I EVER GOT
FROM MY MOM

"Date a man who worships you."

-Lesley,
Bergen Co., NJ

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"My mother told me that dating was a numbers game. If I go up to
100 girls and ask them out, 99 might say no, but one will say yes
and it's all worth it."

-Mike
Port Washington, NY

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"My Mom used to say 'don't date anyone you wouldn't consider
marrying.' In other words, be careful who you agree to go on a date
with, you might just end up falling for him!

She also said 'Don't settle. You will have to kiss a lot of frogs
in order to find your prince!' (Though I'm not sure she was
encouraging all the kissing!) When I had relationships that ended,
she encouraged me to see the positive side and know that I was that
much closer to finding my prince!

There's just one thing... I married my prince, but nobody told me
I'd have to wash his clothes and listen to his snoring all night!!
UGGHH!!"

- Liz
Durham, NC

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"My mom said, 'Don't use sex to get love, because some men will use
love to get sex.'

'If you still have doubts a year into a relationship, it's a sign of
things to come.' (In other words, cut your losses and get out.)

Most of all, 'the purpose of dating (just dating) is to find out
what you DON'T want in a guy. Your taste becomes more defined as
you swim along in the dating pool.'"

-Amy
Chantilly, VA

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"My mom has given me tons of great advice over the years. I have to
say that there is one I like the best though.

She told me that she (playfully) reminded my dad every day how
lucky he was to have her for his wife. Also she took a few minutes
to make sure she looked nice when he got home from work.

The power a positive attitude, as well as a little self-promotion,
goes a long way!"

-Karyn,
Avon Lake, OH

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"If you think you are going to be able to change your significant
other, change your own mindset. (Ladies, you'll be lucky if you
can just get him to clip his nails or buy new underwear to replace
the ones with holes in it.)

Sometimes you need to be single to remind yourself of who you are.

Nothing is easy in life. If you aren't willing to work at a
relationship, you will never have one that lasts.

If it's so hard that you need couples counseling while still dating,
don't plan on this going the distance.

You're not always going to be right. But if you're always wrong,
you're either with the wrong person or you need to understand the
basic concepts of life.

Figure out if it's Love or Lust. If you two can't stay together
without sex for an extended period of time (several months) it's
probably lust.

Don't combine bank accounts or purchase a home together until you
are actually married.

Make sure if you're been dating a while, that the two of you know
where you are in the relationship. Are you thinking marriage and
they're thinking next great vacation (or vice versa)?

Communication is important because if you don't communicate, you
may get annoyed that your significant other isn't reading your
thoughts and that's just plain crazy."

-Jason,
Washington, DC

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"My Mom always told me that I should picky, but not too picky."

- Julie
New York, NY

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"My mother told me dating was stressful and to make sure I
wore deodorant."

-John
Los Angeles, CA