I’ve seen some pretty odd behavior in my day, but there is nothing crazier than seeing the boyfriend or husband of a friend or relative attempting to entertain another woman.
Some look at me like I have done something wrong. Some get nervous and exit the building immediately. Some play it very cool. It’s almost like he is standing toe to toe with me daring to say something.
But what the heck are you supposed to do when you see a friend’s or relative’s boo trying to get something started with a new booo?
I’ve had friends and family members who have thought about stepping out on their relationship. I could hear it in their statements. "I’m getting so tired of him."
"We don't have enough sex."
"He doesn't listen to me."
"He doesn't spend enough time with me."
When I hear things like these, I immediately go into nope-don't-do-that mode.
"Nah, it's not worth it. You may be feeling like that now, but don't even think about it," I say.
I don't believe that cheating in a committed relationship or a marriage can do anything but harm a relationship more.
Yea, it will be exciting. It will be a whole bunch of fun. But it will likely leave a person more empty than they were to start with.
I believe that working on a relationship is best and if it is not going to work then jump ship and pursue others.
Nevertheless, I know everyone doesn't view relationships like me and sometimes temptation can get to a person.
Someone that you don't know a lot about may be very attractive when "the bitch at home" gets on your nerves.
But what should you do if you know or feel that your friend is getting ready to cheat? Should you discourage it?
And what should you do if you see your friend or relative's significant other out with another?
Should you mind your own business?
My strategy is to approach the person to let them know, yes I see you and this doesn't look good to me.
But what would you do?
Share your comments here or e-mail me at choosingmrwrong@gmail.com.
oh whee! this is a hard one. if im real tight with my cat, then i gotta say something to see where his head is at with the relationship. if he's in it to win it, then i'll say i saw something playa the other day. if he's doing his "own thang" also then fudge it!
ReplyDeleteThanks Lova for reading.
ReplyDeleteYes, it is a difficult thing to call. Interesting you say if he is doing his own thang. Hmmm, but doesn't cheating hits men harder :) I think it's sort of I can do this, but she can't do this to me. Oooweee don't get me too bad LOLOLOL
This is a difficult one, primarily because I don't like being the bearer of bad news! Furthermore, I don't ever want to feel like I'm partly or solely responsible for the demise of someone else's ish. Ironically, some folks know what's really goin on in their relationships; whether or not they choose to acknowledge that is their own decision to make. I just think that it gets too sticky when you thrust yourself in the middle by testifying to something. You also run the risk of alienating yourself from your friend and their relationship in the event that they decide not to believe you, or if they remain with the philanderer against your advice or expectation...
ReplyDeleteYea, you are right Tanq. Folks usually know anyway.
ReplyDeleteTanq you are so on with your comment!! How many relationship you know of or have been in yoself and you got back with that cheating person then you don told the business to get yo head smacked and yo friend is right back in the mess you told!! don't hang yoself!!
ReplyDeleteAnonymous, you are correctamungo. The friend will be mad atchu. LOLOLOL
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