I recently had a conversation with friends about our wants and needs.
We were sitting at a wing spot and going around the table saying our needs.
Relationship with Christ, I say.
Hardworking, my gf says.
Good communicator, another friend says.
When it comes time for the fourth person at the table to share his needs, he’s befuddled.
He says he isn’t sure, so the rest of us take another stab at our wants. And we do this a few times.
It was interesting that everyone sitting around the table basically wanted the same things, even though we all had personality traits that were more important and even educational backgrounds.
Would you date someone who has a GED? Would you date an ex-felon?
Anywho?
After getting home and reflecting on the conversation because I’m a thinker, I think deeply on what everyone was saying. And then I begin to imagine the package it comes in.
We never talked about how the people would look. We joked about height, but that was about it.
But because I recently watched Boomerang, the scene of Eddie Murphy in the bed with Lela Rochon comes to mind. He pulls the covers off her feet and is startled. He is shocked by the polish and corns, so he eases his way out of the bed.
The scene is hysterical but it is soooo funny because it is sooooooooooo true.
My friends and I sat around talking about all this stuff that we wanted on the inside and yea that’s good. We know what we want. Well three out of 4 of us knew.
But if it isn’t packaged correctly, we will likely be turned off and perhaps miss out on a prize. Or would we?
It’s impossible to have perfection, but do you think that the way a person’s eat on a first date can make you say, ummmm nope and ummm nexxxxxt.
Can their ugly feet make you think twice about going further?
What about their voice? If it’s kinda feminine for a guy or squeaky or high-pitched for a girl would that make you say nope, nope, nope?
What about ugly hands?
If a person with everything you are looking for on the inside comes along, oh she's nice and ooooweee he's nice but he has a lazy eye or missing tooth when he or she smiles, would that make you keep on truckin’ on dating lane?
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D, you know me... I want perfection, perfectly wrapped, lol.
ReplyDeleteNo such thing sweetheart! :) Go for a neat freak first and you will be A-OK LOLOLOLO
ReplyDeleteI used love a set of handsome hands until I dated an electrical engineer. His hands were cracked and caked. When he reminded me that he worked outside with big machines i began to think his hands were sexy. Sexy hard working hands.
ReplyDeleteI used to be an orthodontic snob. I was turned off by missing, oddly shapped or gaping teeth. One guy told me that his dentist told his mom, "if it were my son, I would get him braces. If it were my nephew I would skip them." So, he didn't get braces. I can't hold decisions that parents make against a guy. Besides, he was a sexy engineer.
Then there is the education piece. If dude talks about attending college out of state or something and running out of money but not attending the local college because it isn't good enough then I move on. I don't want to be with someone who sells himself short with stupid prejudices.
Frizzy Hooker, my dad always told me that a man's hands should look like he works with them :) And for the toofas, have them all or crowns or sumptin, try, try, just try. LOLOLOL
ReplyDeleteHere is my thing about feet. I love MY feet. I take care of them. They are spoiled. They get pampered. Needless to say, I don't want a man's feet to be as pretty as mine. I need some masculinity. And a man with shiny toes and smooth heels aint it for me! Sorry. As for a man's hands...my momma says, "you can tell how hard a man works by his hands." To me, if a man's hands are smooth, nails perfectly manicured and shaped then I'm going to pass. No thank you! I do not want to feel like I am holding hands with one of my girlfriends. Negatory! YUCK
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