Dating is interesting, but I have found that people like to play games.
For what, I have no idea.
Heck, I thought after people reach a certain age that mind games went out the window, but-eerrrr-uhhhh nope they don’t.
But what kills me, what really doubles me over in laughter, is when people think that their games are not recognizable.
I put my hand on my chin and say to myself, "Yep, I see you. Uh huh, I see you. I see you, and I’ll entertain this for one more second before I tell you to kick rocks cause you are wasting my time and my energy."
There’s something to be said for honesty. I like honesty. I like honesty whew I like honesty.
I vibe with a person when honesty is in the mix.
But when I look at a person and "I’m bout to try to game you" written on his forehead it’s a major turnoff.
I’m an intelligent woman and on top of that I have crazy common sense, so I see game. Yep, I see you.
There's the waiting game. You are interested but you are going to wait to call.
The bait game. This is asking questions for reaffirmation.
The playing dumb game. Oh, I didn't know that and you know you know.
The hard to get game. I'm interested but I'm not thaaaaaat interested.
The we need to talk game. I wanna see if I can make your heart jump out of your chest to see if you really like me.
Whew, these Trix are for kids.
Now don’t get me wrong, I believe I would have had to stand up in the Mind Games Self Help group in my 20s and say, "My name is Darlene and I’ve played a mind game or two in my day."
But it’s one of those things that I have put away. It is in my repertoire but I don’t see it necessary to use. I’m confident in D and if just me being me can’t keep a person interested, heck fuhget it.
I have a list of Nopes for character qualities.
I just don’t like mean, so if I see mean rear its ugly head I’m gonna have to throw up a peace sign. I have a few other absolutes, too.
But now I’m thinking I need to add mind games to the list.
For one, someone trying to game me is insulting. Ummm, "Do you really think I’m a doe-doe, cause I’m not," I want to say.
But why do people play mind games? What is the point?
I’ve read that it is reverse psychology to win a person’s affection. OOOOK, but does it really win a person’s affection or make a person say ugggg.
Well, it makes me say ugggg.
I think people confuse being interesting, mysterious, enticing with playing mind games.
We all want to entice and keep a suitor interested, so what’s the correct way to go about this.
Is it acting unavailable? Is it not answering one’s phone? Is it not calling or, in this day, texting? Is it acting soooo busy so that a person is even more interesting? Is it twisting a person’s words?
I’m not sho I’m up for the mind games, so shoot maybe I need to just sit on the sidelines until I’m ready to play mind games again?
Are you into mind games? Do you like playing mind games? Do you recognize when someone is trying to game you? I get offended when people attempt to play mind games with me, how do mind games make you feel?
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ReplyDeleteWHAT UP WITH YOUR PIX? NOT SURE ABOUT THAT LOOK. YOU NAKED? MIGHT WANT TO CHANGE IT. JUST MY OPINION.
Yes, the games people play Lately, they have been blatant attempts at being clever, I and think, WTF? But I have to say, that there have been those few that are masters at their game, who have also left me say WTF? But they have also left me questioning myself. My motives, my beliefs, my values.
ReplyDeleteThe moral of the story is...know thyself above all, what your value are, boundaries are, deal breakers are, and above all what your insecurities and weaknesses are.
If you have no idea who you are, and what you stand for, someone will gladly come along to tell you, and more importantly, to guide you, to their way of thinking.