I’ve been getting a lot of, let’s just say interesting, e-mails lately.
They read:
Sexually explicit - Married Women Dating Community!
Would you be interested in meeting an attractive married women for an intimate
encounter with NO STRINGS ATTACHED?
This is going to sound crazy, but there is a dating site loaded with thousands
of married women right in your city that are looking to meet and date new people
this week.
PRESS HERE to meet Married women this week: (MUST BE 18 and OLDER)
http://lm2wl7service.com/eazkfbtqhzaa
Good googly moogly! How did I start getting these e-mails.
I do have to admit that it gave me ideas for my character Penelope Foster in Choosing Mr. Wrong. Meet Penelope in E-mail Piques Curiousity.
And then Noel Biderman, the founder and CEO of Ashleymadison.com, a Web site for married individuals interested in having affairs appeared on The View. He was talking about how wildly popular his Web site has become.
He said that monogamy is against human nature. OOOOK!
And I’m not quite sure where I heard this or read it but I recently came across information that said the seven-year itch phenomenon is real.
So what the heck is going on? Married people are openly being targeted to “do the nasty” with people they are not married to. Web sites and e-mails Oh my.
But what really makes a person cheat?
Are they bored? Are they no longer attracted to their spouse? Do they no longer feel connected? Has the passion fizzled? Is the wife more interested in the baby? Is the husband more interested in his career? Are their sexual cravings that are not being satisfied?
Again, I set out on a small research project.
Some reasons I found were addiction to sex and low self-esteem so there is a craving for more than the spouse’s attention. Some people like to play the cheating game because it’s fun and exciting and some may be searching for that first-hit feeling. The “first-hit” feeling I equate to a person’s first hit of a drug. This person is constantly seeking, heck chasing tail or DI, for that same exuberant first-time feeling. And ummm, I guess a lot of first times are needed.
I also read that sometimes a person may cheat accidentally.
This one had me scratching my head. But the argument is that a person may do some innocent flirting and before they know it they are in over their heads.
I’m not sure if I believe this reason. It seems a bit ridiculous to me that you end up falling on somebody’s DI or into someone’s Va-jay-jay by accident. I think it is a bit more deliberate.
But are these e-mails and Web sites making it easier for people to cheat. Or and whew, I am going to go there, do desperate women who just needs a lil piece of a man make it easier for a man to cheat on his wife.
Do women’s crafty mind’s make it easier for them to cheat and get away with? You do know that women are much better at lying than men.
Share your comments here or e-mail me at choosingmrwrong@gmail.com.
Yup, I think a woman is more likely to be able to have a fling and just put it behind her.
ReplyDeleteWoooo! That's really interesting. I wasn't thinking in terms of that. But I agree. Get a lil bounce in her step and return to her dudola life :)
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ReplyDeleteI just had a conversation with a friend a couple of days ago about men cheating. I told my friend, a man is as faithful as his options. Most men can not comprehend the concept of telling an attractive woman (hell one with a pulse) who is interested in him the word NO!! I will chalk it up as lack of experience for the brothers. As for women with these crafty minds and lying. It's not that you are better at lying, we just tell more of them and can't remember which lie we told you. (lol). Sad but true.......
ReplyDeleteYou don't cheat by accident. There's no such thing as oops my panties fell to the floor. oops my penis is out of briefs. oops my legs are open. oops my penis pulled me to her vagina. Come on! You cheat because you want to. The hormones and the flesh are just off the charts and the next thing you know the headboard is bangin. You do it because you want to get done! Keep it raw-eel!!
ReplyDeleteI have discovered over the years that cheating has many levels. With my fist love we dated for two years before I ever looked at another woman. And the first time I did I felt a pang of guilt and told her right away(to which she laughed off and said that it was only natural).
ReplyDeleteNow-n-days texting another woman or flirting with the cashier to get that discount can be considered cheating ... man its gotten deep!!!
The act of SEX is no longer "cheating" there are couples that openly have other sexual partners. Cheating is the thing that you do that causes your mate to shudder. For the thought to enter their mind that ... if I let this continue I will lose my man/woman.
When we choose a partner, we do it through the filter of what we perceive we want, needs, desires, etc., However, when we cheat we do so out of our perceived lack.
ReplyDeleteAs you say, the so called accident, was never an accident, because you placed yourself in a situation where human weakness is prevalent; going to a single's bar which also involves drinking; spending a lot of time one on one time with someone that is sexually interested in you, etc.