Men Love 'The Chase'

While having a conversation with a friend, I think he inadvertently gave me one of the reasons to why men cheat.

We were talking about the pace at which relationships should move and the rules of dating.

He said men are hunters and gatherers.

Hmmm.

"Men like to go out and explore and gather things. It's the hunt. It's the thrill of the chase," he said.

He was essentially saying that men hunt for women to bed.

OK. My eyes open widely and my listening skills go into overdrive.

So if men are hunters and gatherers what happens when he has found what has been hunting?

"The chase ends," he simply said.

Wow!

"So there's no more excitement. There's no more interest. There's no more chase involved," I asked.

"Yea, and then he moves on to begin another chase," he said.

But what happens when a man finds the woman he has been hunting for and finally decides to settle down?

The look in his eyes offered the expression of "duh, you don’t get it!" But then I added, "Does it change to a mental chase?"

I think I offered him an easy answer because he then said, "Yea."

But I’m not quite sure if the chase changes for some men after having this conversation. I think that some men are exactly what he said hunters and gatherers – period. It never ends until they are no longer able to hunt and gather.

And now with Viagra, hunters and gatherers of this kind have an extended life.

But I'm not sure if all men are hunters and gatherers. I do think some men may be this way, however.

What are your thoughts about the hunters and gatherers theory? Do men lose interest after sex? Is it really the thrill of the chase? When does this thrill subside or does it ever?

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