I think this one guy thought I was vulnerable because of my marital status -- divorced.
I have reached this conclusion because during our short stint of dating he was seemingly telling me what he thought I wanted to hear. But maybe this is something that men do to all women and I've just been out of the dating scene for a while and didn't realize it.
After seeing a guy for about a month, this fool told me that he loved me.
"Ummm, excuse me. What did you say?"
"I love you."
I looked him in his eyes and I was beginning to think I was in a scary movie and he was going to turn into some sort of monster. Clearly, he didn't love me and I found a hint of craziness or maybe it was sneakiness in his eyes.
I left the whole LOVE thing alone until the next day. He didn't mean to say that, I kept telling myself. "Nah, DJ, he didn't mean that."
When I brought up the L word again, I said, "You slipped and said that right?"
"No, I love you and isn't that what you want to hear?"
"Hecky, nah!" I shoot back.
He pauses and then says, "You are the type of woman I could see myself with."
Whew! I'm grabbin' my shoes, and putting up my index finger like a church lady and sneaking on out of this.
He may be a fatal attraction, and the last thing I have time for is a whack-a-doo in my life and plus I'm not vulnerable like that so cut the games, partner.
Do you think guys lie to women to mislead them, to get what they want...why do men lie?
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WOW that's what you want to hear? Really did he that that was appropriate? To even confess with his mouth wide shut that's why he said it. Why would he even assume that is what you wanted to hear. Wack a do is an understatement and don't leave like the church lady you need to break out like the road runner. BEEP BEEP!!!
ReplyDeleteWell, at least he was honest enough to tell you that he said it because he thought that was what you wanted to hear.
ReplyDeleteMen say things all the time for that very reason, and it sucks, and more importantly, is uncalled for.
All deception has its reason, and they all stem from the insecurity of not trusting, respecting, and believing in yourself, or the person you tell them to.