What is celibacy?
If you use the definition in Webster it means the "abstention from sexual intercourse."
But if a person decides to abstain until marriage, should other forms of sexual activity be involved. Y'all know what I'm talking about.
Is it OK to say that you are celibate and you do everything but have intercourse?
Can you get your boobies, ummm, you know?
Can you have oral sex?
Ummmm, does a celibate person masturbate?
One of my gfs, and yea, I know I always say one of my friends. But one of my gfs said that she was at a women's day conference when a woman stood up and said, "I am celibate, but a woman has needs. And for those needs I use my showerhead."
OOOOOOOOOOOOOK!
Yep, she said it in church, so I surely hope she was telling the truth but ummm, if she was telling the truth is she wrong for admitting that she pleases herself with a showerhead, even though she says she is celibate?
Old School Celibates say that a celibate person should not engage in any form of sexual pleasure. And there are still people who believe that masturbating is just wrong, wrong, wrong. They see it almost as disgraceful as watching a porn or going to a sex store and buying a dildo.
New School Celibates seem to think everything else is OK except the actual "Do."
What does being celibate mean to you? Please share your thoughts with me here or e-mail me at choosingmrwrong@gmail.com.
I was celibate for more than 6 years. For most of it, I said "no" to everything. I dated but there was no sex anything. I would have moments where I would buy something battery operated. But eventually, I would feel guilty and throw it away. The same with masturbation. Finally, I determined that celibacy sounds like a good idea until you try it.
ReplyDeleteIf you are going to count masturbation the answer is no, I have never be celibate. I will admit that I sometimes masturbate before I go out on a date. That way my eyes wondered much less and my dates always try harder to get my attention.
ReplyDeleteOh wow, I can't believe she said that in church. That's kind of funny. People who think masterbation is "wrong wrong wrong"..they probably come from that generation that married when they were 15. People that preach about it bein wrong are usually married and don't have to worry about going without. I never thought that being celibate was no masterbation. I thought it was just dealing with 'sex'.
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