On my wedding day, I was the happiest girl in the world, nah the universe. If there are Martians out there they don’t know anything about this feeling weeez humans feel.
In fact, I was told by many of the older folks in attendance on that grand thousands-upon-thousands-of-dollars-spent-day that they wished that they could bottle up my happiness and sell it. And in this recession, folks would be rich.
Well no one really said that, but I was happy.
Urgggggg fast forward! It’s 8 years later and I’m divorced. Prince Charming got the house and I got the dog. And don’t get me wrong, I love my dog -- for real, for real.
When I look back on 8 years of my life with a man I loved crazy, I realize that we really only shared a house and a dog. Yea, we traveled to many places together. We went to many social functions together. We went to many partaays and shared many toasts together. Oh, we had fun, fun, fun.
We talked about professional dreams and goals, but we didn’t ask about each others day. Ah schucks, we didn’t really talk.
Ummmm, ummm, ummm hello, what yo name is?
Now don’t get me wrong, my “was”band (was+husband) is a nice guy. He is ambitious, scholarly intelligent and yep, ladies, he’s foxy – brown-skinned, bald, about 6 feet with an average build. And if you are one of those ladies who loves a man who looks good in a suit -- that’s him. Eye candy with Super Sexy on top!!!
And while we may all want the eye candy, ambitious, handsome man in a suit, do we get sidetracked and possibly sacrifice the other character qualities that we know deep, deep, deep down in our hearts we really need to be happy.
The book I am writing is not solely about my relationship. It is a compilation of stories I’ve heard about relationships. It will be serious. It will be funny. It will make you angry. It will make you cry. What I hope most of all my book will do is get my readers to stand in the mirror and be painfully honest with that reflection and say, I need someone who is…..
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Hey DEE,
ReplyDeleteI see you gurl!! And I can hear your voice speaking these words. I promise to follow you and spread the word as you grow. I may even share a story or two with you...because I do have some. Congrats Lady!! Luv You!! Tootie
I can definitely identify from the male perspective. I would like to hear more about what you all did in the marriage to try to repair what couldnt be repaired. That was my gripe. Also, can you feel me on one person working to save something while the other doesnt? That is what led me to securing a lawyer LOL! Looking forward to more stories about Mr & Mrs Wrong. Thanks Darlene!
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