Relationships: A Flag On The Play?

Relationships can be difficult to maneuver. We have to consider someone else's feelings while keeping our own feelings in mind. Sometimes, we may drop the ball and not do quite as good a job as we would like.

This is when understanding, patience and forgiveness come into play to create a happy, healthy relationship.

A lot of times, women will exert so much energy to make a relationship work. All the while, we are trying to be patient. We are trying to be understanding. We are trying to be forgiving. Well, all the patience, understanding and forgiving in the world will not make some relationships be loving, happy and healthy.

It is necessary to understand the difference between putting our time and effort into something because it is actually a good thing and when we are putting our time and effort into something that is not going to work, not now and not ever.

So let me help you put things in perspective.

If you are giving so much of yourself and not getting much in return -- that is a flag on the play. Why are you allowing this to happen?

If you don't really feel loved or you are not really happy, that is definitely a flag on the play. Why are you allowing this to happen?

If you watch the things you say because you do not want to upset your partner -- you know, you walk around on eggshells because you want to keep the peace. Why are you doing that? Isn't that tiring? Aren't you tired of not being able to be your authentic self?

If you have not met his friends or his family, but you have been dating a while and you believe that the relationship could be serious. Nope, it's not! If he really cared about you and thought you were special, he would want to show off his special something to the world. You would not be a secret.

If you have been or are being stonewalled after a tiff,that is a red flag. Is it OK for someone to get upset with you and then act like you do not exist -- that your feelings do not matter. Are you OK with being treated that way?

There are many more relationship red flags, but if you are experiencing several red flags, it may be time to re-evaluate why you are still in that relationship.

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