I Ain't Afraid To Say I Want A Man

I went to a purse party over the weekend. I love birthday birthdays. I love toy parties. I love pamper chef parties. I love art parties. I love martini parties. I love bachelorette parties. I loooooooooove parties.

I love sitting in a room with a bunch of women who have different perspectives on life. The conversation is always good.

It was no different for the purse party.

Women can’t be in a room long before they start talking about men.

One talks about going home to take care of her guy because he’s sick.

Another talked about wearing a boa to make it spicy.

Still another talked about her crazy sister’s guy who walked around the house with a gun to intimidate her and is now in jail.

All kind of shiggidy fo real.

After I checked out the purses, I got a little more chardy chard and jibba jabbed a bit more.

Soon, it was time to go, but before I left I thought I would hand out my business cards for my blog and soon-to-be published book. In the spring, y'all. :)

As I pass my business cards out, I give my spiel about how I update my blog weekdays on a relationship topic. I add that I’m on Facebook with a relationship question of the day, etcetera etcetera.

One lady asks about my relationship situation. And I often get this. I told her I was divorced. The next question is also typical.

"So is your book about you choosing the wrong man?" she asked.

"Nope, it's not," I tell her. "It's about the decisions that women make in selecting a mate," and then I go into character synopsis of the four ladies in the book.

Another lady chimes in and says something stupid like, "What if you don't want a man?"

Dumb. Dumb. Dummy!

We go back and forth a bit about relationships and why they are necessary.

My argument was based on relationships are as necessary as water is to live. And quite honestly, it's very irritating for me to hear women say they don't want a man. I respectfully disagree.

This stupid woman was saying maybe she just wants him when she wants him. I guess she meant in a sexual way, but she sounded soooo stupid this time I didn’t even care to understand.

There is nothing wrong with being independent. There is nothing wrong with doing your thang and handling your business, but really I think this whole Ms. Independent thang has gooooone toooooo far.

Being independent is messing some women up because they begin to act and believe in their minds that they don't want a man.

Hello, my name is Darlene and I want a man in my life. Call me whateva you want. Needy. Dependent. Whateva!

I'm not part of the movement of women who want to say I don't need a man. Yes, I said NEED. I want, yep and I need a man.

My belief is based on the whole reason WO-MAN is here. To be a help mate. Eve was put here for Adam because he was alone. She was made from his rib, ummmm which is close to his heart. Woman is meant to be a help mate to man. Period. Grab your bible and go to the book of Genesis if you don’t believe me.

Nah, you don't have to go looking for it, here it is.

"And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him." Genesis 2:18

So I'm not like a lot of women, black women in particular, who put up the front that they don't want a man because they have been hurt. Yep, I've been hurt. I've been hurt deeply but to try to convince myself that I don't want or need a man is asinine, dumb, stupid, ridiculous, crazy and insane. And really I would be lying to myself and what good is that?

I'm not Ms. Independent who says I don't need a man. NOPE, I'm not her.

I have a job. I am educated. I pay my own bills, but Man isn’t meant to be alone and neither is woman.

And ladies, go ahead and say you don't need a man. You may just be the cause for why you don't have a man. Don't say it if you don't mean it. Good googly moogly.

After all, you need a man for a baby. Yea, you can get sperm from a sperm bank but it still came from a man. Duh!

And then there's nothing like the strong, gentle touch of a man.

And then there is the natural instinct of intimacy and sex that man and woman both have.

There's no way around it. There's nothing like intimacy with a man.

Yea, you can go around your gfs all day evday and laugh and have a blast but you still crave to be in the arms of a man. You still crave attention from a man.

And he craves your attention, too.

Just think about it. Guys don't go around saying I don't need a woman. They say they don't need a woman who is going to give them a headache. LOLOLOLOL

What are your thoughts? Have you ever said you don’t need a man?