Rules Of Dating Friend's Ex

What happens when you find out someone you are dating used to date one of your friends?

This is a real scenario.

With there being only 2 degrees of separation, yep 2, because it certainly cannot be 6, it seems that everybody knows everybody.

But what is a person to do?

My philosophy is this. As long as the person is not in my closest of closest circle, all is fair in love and war. And plus folks sleep around soooo much these days that everyone cannot be in this group.

But it also means hands, foots, yep foots off, for people who know intimate details about me and my past relationships.

I’ve heard old heads say be careful what you say about your sex life with your friends because it may end up making that friend desire your mate.

I agree with this to a certain extent. Yep, be very careful with people who may not really be a friend.

Sooooo it may be necessary to explore the definition of a friend because everyone you meet and hang out with and talk to is not a friend.

I’ve told my bff that her husband has nice arms, but that’s as far as it would ever go. I cannot ever see myself having a desire to be with him. And I can’t imagine her thinking about being with any of my ex’s.

Any who.

If a person knows the details of my relationships, that person is a friend. I have trusted them enough to be vulnerable with painful or even embarrassing information. If I haven’t divulged information about the inner workings of my relationships then it’s more than likely that the person is an associate. And heck, I may have even hung out a time or two with a chickypoo but ummm the term friend is real deal Holyfield in my book.

I hear stories about intertwining of friends and of brothers and friends and sisters and all that craziness, but that is exactly what it is – crizzzzay. That’s too close.

And how the heck would I even feel dating an ex of one of my closest friends -- like garbage. It’s a world full of folks so there just has to be someone else who I could find interesting.

Sooooo someone in my closest circle -- never.

But a friend of a friend who used to date a person that I also know. I give it the green light.

What is your rule for dating friends of friends or exs? Tell me.