6 Months And Married

Hmmmm. How long does it really take to figure out if you want to be with a person?

And not just be with, but with as in marry.

Yea, the answer is different for every couple, but what do men and women mean when they say, I knew she was the one. I knew he was the one.

Do they look across the room and zero in and say bingo. Youda, youda, one, youda, youda, one ...

I recently heard a conversation about how long it takes for a man to propose. This guy said it took less than a year for him to know so he proposed.

This isn't too far-fecthed because my bff’s parents were married in six months.

Yep, married, not engaged, married.

Wow.

He saw. He went. He conquered.

This seems a bit fast to me, but who am I.

Plus, as I reflect on my childhood, I remember seeing them together and they were a picture of love in my eyes. I say were because my bff’s father is deceased.

But when should women say, hey either piss or get off da danggone pot, partner?!

At my current age, and nope, not gonna tell ya, I think about a year is about long enough to figure out if you wanna be bothered. LOLOLOL. I mean be together foeva, foeva with your boo.

In a year, you know if those quirks or obnoxious behaviors will drive you bizzonkers or if you can deal.

But marriage is serious business. Whew, it is business. It’s for grown folks.

Marriage is not for the immature. As a matter of fact, signs should be posted that say:

Move Forward With Caution

Yield When Arguing Starts

Be Quiet!

Do Not Take Him/Her For Granted

Take Time To Talk

Love And Then Love Some More

Don’t Be So Quick To Criticize

Any who. Back to courting.

I have found a list of questions that should be asked before a proposal and subsequent marriage. And heck, they are good, real gooooood.

According to 100 Questions Before Marriage Blog, the following questions should be asked:

Out of all of life, what is tops on your list for being important factors?
What is being happy all about in your mind?

What three words would you use to describe who you are as a person?

Which has a higher value in your mind, relationships with people or monetary gain?

If you were to paint a picture of the world what colors would you use? Why?

Financially speaking, what are your goals for the present and the future?

Yea, the questions may sound a bit quirky or even crazy, but I say this is good stuff. If you are really thinking about spending the rest of your life with a person, it should be an intense interviewing process involved.

Nah, you don’t have to ask all the questions in one day, but asking one or two here and there may just be a good idea.

Interestingly, I don’t think that it’s really possible to 100 percent know a person. I would say more like 75 percent. And this is why people end up surprising their spouses and significant others with stuff about their past and things that they have done or want to do.

No matter what we think about ourselves, we are not 100-percent transparent.

Sooooo, how much do you think you know your spouse or significant other? Give a percentage. How long does it really take to get to know a person well enough to determine if you want a future with him or her? What do you think about the questions that should be asked before marriage?

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