Get 'The Big O'

Reaching an orgasm ain’t easy for most women. And they are off into the distant future if a woman is involved with a guy who could care less about mutual satisfaction.

I’ve had a few experiences in which I wasn’t sure if he cared.

And there is nothing more irritating than someone getting off and rolling over.

Yea, I have rubbed a shoulder or back in my day but I really wanted to give the ole heave-ho out my bed. Whack! Bam! Get da Fudge outta here.

But women should take more responsiblity for reaching "The Big O."

I came across interesting information about younger females reaching orgasm.

• 47 percent climaxed for the first time through masturbation
• 32 percent through sexual intercourse
• 20 percent through petting
• 1 percent while sleeping

Sleeping! Sleeping! Sleeping! That’s some good sleep that I’ve never had.

But sex experts suggest practicing on your own, ummm masturbating, if you can’t reach an orgasm.

Women are achieving orgasmic success with vibrators, another study has found.

It appears that woman are heeding the call to practice because there is a lot of buzzing going on across America.

A study finds that more than 50 percent of women between 18 and 60 years old have used a vibrator.

But the study that will be published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine also goes on to say that 45 percent of the men surveyed said they have used a vibrator both solo and during partnered sexual activities.

Hmmm, I didn’t know that men used vibrators soooooolo, but OK.

But back to women searching for an orgasm.

Experts say, "Masturbating helps you to learn just exactly which pressures and rhythms you need in order to bring you to orgasm. In particular, you need to explore your own body in order to find out precisely how to stimulate your clitoris."

The article continues that, "Learning to love your own body should be a delicious experience."

Delicious. Delicious. Deeeeeeelicious.

And there’s a video called "Selfloving" by Betty Dodson that will help in this effort.

But did you realize that based on the time of the month not only determines your horndog level but also your ability to reach a climax?

Whew! I, I, ummm, I didn’t know that.

Half-way through the monthly cycle, most women are highly orgasmic.

And hopefully, you are intelligent enough to know that a monthly cycle includes ovulation and menstruation -- not just the period. If not, you must have flunked health. But fellas if you flunked, I'm gonna give you a refresher.

It is necessary to have clitoral stimulation for a woman to reach an orgasm. And ummm, a few other things.

The experts say:

• Remember that most women need stimulation of the clitoris. This is the part of them that would have turned into a penis had they developed as males - and it's just as important to women as the penis is to a guy.

• Remember that love, romance, cuddling and a good atmosphere turn women on in the early stages of a sex session just as much as your caresses do.

• Take your time.

• Caress her breasts - a few women learn to climax through breast fondling alone.
• Give her oral sex. Most women adore this and some claim that they cannot come unless a man 'goes down' on them.

• Don't be too proud to ask her to show you what she wants.

• Have some sex sessions where you encourage her to take the initiative and to decide the agenda.

• If you lose control and come before her, do try to summon some energy to kiss and stimulate her so that she can climax, too.

• Do tell her that she's marvelous, sexy and beautiful.

Have you ever wanted to kick somebody out your bed because they were sooo selfish? Or have you never allowed someone back because he was sooo lousy.

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