The holiday season is upon us and for many it's one of the most anticipated times of year. Family members come from out of town and family gatherings are extra special. There are many holiday parties and anything given at this time of year has a holiday feel to it.
It's a good time. I looooooooooove Christmas. I especially love Christmas Eve because it is my parents' anniversary and while growing up we opened gifts on Christmas Eve -- not Christmas Day.
In addition to the gift giving, I remember helping my mom in the kitchen to prepare our big Christmas meal.
Any who. It's just a wonderful time of year to me. I'm not even going to touch on the birthday we celebrate because I will go to church on y'all :)
But on top of family and friend stuff, many people share this time of year with the person that they like or love...ya know, that significant other.
January is the most popular month for filing divorce, however. It's likely because couples are trying to get through the holidays without ruining it for others and changing up the way that things have been done for years.
Plus, I also feel that there is a much larger percentage of men and women than we have ever imagined who are afraid, petrified, mortified, horrified of being alone.
But errrr uhhhh alone is not lonely. I don't think people truly understand that you can be in a relationship and be lonely as heckypoo...nah hell. You can feel like you are in hell with the devil. You can sit in the room with the person who supposedly loves you and feel like you are alone and lonely. Yep, been there done that and not gonna do it again. :)
I also know that going through the holiday with someone who is half sour doesn't feel good either, but people still hold on and hold on for dear life.
But if a couple is experiencing problems in their relationship, should they tough it out and maybe the Holiday spirit will bring them closer? Or should they just call it quits and start rebuilding lives apart -- right away?
After all, that would be one less gift that one would have to think about purchasing....and ummmm likely one of the more expensive gifts LOLOLOLOL
Why is it so hard to break up during the holiday season? Tell me.
Tuesday, December 7, 2010
Monday, December 6, 2010
He Said He Has A Killer In His Family
It's really hard out here on a pimp or a pimpette :)
I have heard about some of my friends dating nightmares but I have one for the storybook.
On a date with a fella, yadda yadda. I ask for spelling of his last name so that I can Google him...Yep, was gonna Google him and look for him on Facebook. He responds in the creepiest tone, "What are you looking for? What do you want to know?"
You know when the cartoon character gets scared and its hair standS up...well, that was me.
I responded, "I was looking for you on Facebook and couldn't find you."
He responded, "I'm not on Facebook."
All the while, I'm feeling a bit uncomfy but I maintain my composure. Yea, that's right I'm cool. I'm cool.
Well, he reveals to me A LOT, yes, A LOT about his family's history. His mom was a drug addict. The man he thought was his father wasn't his father.
While he's talking, I'm trying not to look like I want to get up out of my seat and run for the door. I'm also wondering if my light complexion has turned ghost white.
He then hits me with the -- my great grandfather killed my great grandmother and her father.
Oh dayuuum!
At that point, I couldn't hide the way I was feeling. I was freaked out. I was scared. I wanted this little afternoon date to be over.
Shoot, I come from a good family. We have a few dysfunctionalities but for the most part, it's all good. Two-parent household. All children finished high school. Two finished college. No teen pregnancies. No sexual abuse craziness. No jail birds...a drunk or two tho LOLOLOLO
But fo real fo real, my family is pretty good so to have all that dumped on me was just overwhelming.
It was much tooo much toooo much for me to handle.
Soooooo, when do you reveal some of the the not so positive or negative things about you or your family to a suitor? Early on and give them a chance to flee early or later on when more of a relationship has been formed? Tell me.
I have heard about some of my friends dating nightmares but I have one for the storybook.
On a date with a fella, yadda yadda. I ask for spelling of his last name so that I can Google him...Yep, was gonna Google him and look for him on Facebook. He responds in the creepiest tone, "What are you looking for? What do you want to know?"
You know when the cartoon character gets scared and its hair standS up...well, that was me.
I responded, "I was looking for you on Facebook and couldn't find you."
He responded, "I'm not on Facebook."
All the while, I'm feeling a bit uncomfy but I maintain my composure. Yea, that's right I'm cool. I'm cool.
Well, he reveals to me A LOT, yes, A LOT about his family's history. His mom was a drug addict. The man he thought was his father wasn't his father.
While he's talking, I'm trying not to look like I want to get up out of my seat and run for the door. I'm also wondering if my light complexion has turned ghost white.
He then hits me with the -- my great grandfather killed my great grandmother and her father.
Oh dayuuum!
At that point, I couldn't hide the way I was feeling. I was freaked out. I was scared. I wanted this little afternoon date to be over.
Shoot, I come from a good family. We have a few dysfunctionalities but for the most part, it's all good. Two-parent household. All children finished high school. Two finished college. No teen pregnancies. No sexual abuse craziness. No jail birds...a drunk or two tho LOLOLOLO
But fo real fo real, my family is pretty good so to have all that dumped on me was just overwhelming.
It was much tooo much toooo much for me to handle.
Soooooo, when do you reveal some of the the not so positive or negative things about you or your family to a suitor? Early on and give them a chance to flee early or later on when more of a relationship has been formed? Tell me.
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