What Is Unforgiveable In A Relationship?

At a recent book club meeting while discussing a book on relationships, it was asked by one of the members -- What is unforgiveable?

The book dealt with the ups and downs of relationships and sisterhood. It was kinda along the lines of what I want to do with my book but not quite.

Any who.

There was one character who was dealing with an A-Hole of a man. Yea, he was a supa dupa assola --- period. Mean, nasty and a cheater.

Then there was another character who was dealing with a guy who didn't even seem to be real. He was always very nice and sexed her to def LOLOLOL Is that real? Well, maybe that's a topic for another day.

Then there was a character who didn't have a fella she liked. She liked evbody LOLOLOL

And then the last chickypoo was married to a man and they didn't really have a lot of sex. They were each other's firsts, but he was having an affair 3 of the 8 years of their marriage and actually had gotten his lover pregnant. And she was carrying twins. Wild stuff!

So the question was asked. What is unforgiveable? Is is abuse -- verbal, emotional, mental? Is it cheating and he gets the other woman pregnant? What is unforgiveable?

I sat back in a very comfy brown leather chair and pondered the question. I took a sip of my chardy chard and blurted out my answer.

There is nothing that a person can say is truly unforgiveable because marriage is about continually forgiving, having a forgiving heart. And then as a Christian, there's no way that you can walk through life saying this is unforgiveable or that is unforgiveable if you want to get into heaven. And then on top of that, if you don't forgive you will be stuck in a bad place, not living, not open to what the future holds in the next relationship.

The ladies in the room, all of whom are my friends, agreed for the most part but took the conversation in all different directions.

Soooooo is there anything that is unforgiveable in a relationship?