I have come to the conclusion that maybe I do NOT know the difference between a compliment and a guy running game on me.
Case and point. I was talking about working out with someone and a fella in the room said he wanted to meet and workout, too. Heck, I'm always happy that a black man or woman is going to workout to combat hypertension, high cholesterol, diabetes, bad nutritional habits, all dat so OOOOOOK.
He asked me to put his number in my phone and call him the next time I work out. OK, no problem. I don't have a problemo with that. I grab my phone and tap, tap, tap it's in. I say, "Well, it's going to be really hot this week so I may not workout until Wednesday and probably early in the morning."
He says, "OK, but just call me."
Right then, right then at that very moment I realized that dude did not want to work out. He wanted me to call me.
Duh.
Clearly, he ran game on me.
But as I described this scenario and a few others to a male relative, he reveals to me that men run game all the time.
OOOOOOK, meez know that!
But then he says that a compliment is even game.
Huh! What you talkin' bout Willis?
A compliment, really, a compliment!
I tell him "Nah, game to me is when a guy is trying to get something. Get your attention. Get you into bed. Get into your head."
He says, "Exactly!"
So we go back and forth on game vs. compliment. He gives me examples and then I give him examples.
"I love to see you walk in heels." Ummm, compliment but game to someone who really loves.
"I want us to have a baby together." Ummm, game, and of course I knew this.
"I miss your pretty face already." Ummm, game! Heck, I thought it was a compliment.
Any sort of pickup line of course is game. OK, OK, OK, I get that but then he says that a man sometimes may even say something that he does NOT even mean just to make a woman smile with the thought that possibly he can get her in bed.
Well, Dayuuum! That's just a shame.
Soooooo, do you know the difference between compliments and game? Is there a difference to you? What is it?
Compliments aren't usually part of game. That shows you have interest in the girl and are being affected by her looks et al. The more subtle game approach is actually to mildly neg the girl.
ReplyDelete"you're cute, but kind of like a giraffe in those heels". Said with a naughty boy smile and lightly teasing tone.