He Isn't Over His Ex

Every relationship is supposed to start as a friendship. I get that. I really do.

But I have had two bfs - guys who are friends -- talk to me about their ex-girlfriends when in fact I thought they were interested in me.

When getting to know a person, I listen intently to what he has to say and even how he says it, if on the phone. If face-to-face, I look for a twinkle in his eye.

The first guy, who honestly could not have been a love interest, seemed to be interested in hanging out with me and getting to know each other. He was much younger and ummm let's just say I prolly was crossing the line, but errr uhhh you only live once. LOLOLOLO

Any who.

I don't know how it happened but he started talking to me about his ex-gf. I listened and then he said things that made me think his heart was still in her hand. It was sorta like he wanted to get my opinion about her so he could figure out how to make things work. Which is cool, if I can help bring about happiness, call me Ms. Hap Hap Happiness. LOLOLOLOL

The other guy, and again, I thought he was interested in me, started telling me about how his ex-gf had a guy stay the night and how it was bothering him. Hmmmmmm

OOOOOOOOK!

Sooooooo, what do you say to a guy who you thought was interested in you and he is mad about someone staying the night with his ex? Ummmmm, ummmmmm, maybe dude you ain't over your ex if you trippin like that.

But I wouldn't be DJ if I had stopped there sooooooo I asked a few questions and listened for the answers.

She told him it was over with the other guy and that she didn't want him in her life any more. Stick with me here --- she didn't want the guy in her life anymore who stayed the night with her LOLOLOLOLOL

Sooooo I tell dude clearly she hasn't figured out if she wants the guy or not in her life and that she is likely in that transition stage, ya know, the stage when you trying to figure out if you should let it go, let it go, let it go. :)

With both, well ummmm with one LOLOLOL, I really wasn't that interested so no harm was truly done. And if nothing else, I gained two friends.

But what are signs that someone is not over his or her ex?