You Know He's Cheating Before You Go Lookin'

I had the most interesting conversation with someone about cheating.

She has recently found out that her husband is cheating, but she says she never suspected a thing. They didn’t have any problems in their relationship, sooooo discovering that he was doing the nasty with another woman caught her offguard.

I grappled with this thought as I listened. I wanted to be sure that I digested the information. I wanted to make sure that I heard and understood her correctly.

I asked a follow-up question to make sure that what I thought I heard is what I heard. I what I thought she meant is what she really meant.

"So you are saying the two of you were not having any problems whatsoever to make you think that something was going on but you just felt like you needed to go through his phone?"

As she prepared to answer, I could see that she was not digesting my question like I digested her comment.

"No," she snapped.

Hmmmmm. I really find it amazing how men and women can pretend in relationships. Sometimes I think people pretend so much that they truly lose sight of reality.

To me, if someone gets the intuition, that gut feeling that something is going on -- before they go through the phone and credit card statements -- they feel like something is going array. And did things just go array over night?

OK, maybe before the person felt like going through the phone, the relationship was without any problems. LOLOLOLO

I can’t even keep a straight face typing that nonsense. All relationships -- particularly marriages -- have problems.

I don’t think that every marriage that has problems has a spouse running out to do the body bump with someone else, but come on. All marriages have problems -- from money, to step children, to one feeling more burdened with house chores, to not spending enough time together, to not enough sex, to not enough intimacy, yea, there is a difference :)

But am I being Negative Nelly by saying that someone sounds really stooooopid when they find out that their spouse has cheated and then say, WE WEREN’T HAVING ANY PROBLEMS.

Or am I on the money? Tell me.