Look And You Shall Find

It is very interesting to me when I hear about situations that involve going through a person’s belongings.

It’s usual the precursor to just about every relationship problem.

And while ladies usually get accused of going through guys’ stuff, guys go through ladies’ stuff, too.

Elin Woods went through Tiger’s phone and it set off a whirlwind of affair after affair. And I’m not going to lie, I’ve gone through someone’s stuff before.

It was something in my gut that made me feel like something was going on. Behavior was different. Shoot, stuff just wasn’t right and it was driving me bizzonkers.

I’m happy to report, however, that the days of Darlene looking for anything are over. I’m not saying I condemn people who do. Hey, it’s there life, but for me and mine, those days are over.

I’m not looking through a phone, a drawer, a trash can, a car a anything. Nope, not gonna do it.

I will say that if I feel something stirring up in my bones and rumbling in my gut that I will have to change my situation.

There’s no need to be in a relationship where there is a lack of trust and an overwhelming suspicion of the other person. Who needs that?

Interestingly, I was left alone in the apartment of the guy that I’m dating. He left a key for me to let myself in. He also left me a terrific surprise – Chinese food, a poinsettia plant, a Christmas card, a note and a cocktail. I was over the moon excited and impressed by his thoughtfulness. And yea, music was playing. Oh, it was nice, very nice.

As I ate the Chinese food and sat on the couch watching TV, it dawned on me that I was in his home alone.

If I was feeling a bit suspicious about anything, it would have been a perfect time to put on my inspector gadget hat. I was alone for about two hours!

But there was nothing that motivated me to do something soooo foolish. Again, I’m not condemning peeps who have done it. Been there, done that and not doing it again. 

Usually if there is an indication that something is going on, ummm something is going on. And also if there isn’t something going on, you may end up finding out something that may make it seem like something is going on, you know, something completely innocent.

Sooooo have you ever gone through someone’s stuff? And how did you feel afterwards? And when you found something, did that really make you want to break up with the person or just made you feel like the ultimate insecure fool?

Tell me.