Do Women Self-Destruct On Dating Scene?

Men have dating fears.

Is that right?

One fear is that a woman will come between him and his friends, the eHarmony article stated.

"No guy wants to start a relationship with a woman only to end up estranged from his buddies six months later."

Hmmmm.

I find this interesting because shouldn’t a full life have time for work and play and everything in between. There shouldn’t be too much of anything. Heck, I see it like eating a well-balanced meal. Everything in moderation.

But OK, if this is a fear I will accept that.

No. 2 is that a woman will soak up all of his free time.

If a woman is soaking up too much of a man’s free time doesn’t that mean they aren’t really a good match. If she wants to spend more time together than he does, isn’t that a problem.

Maybe I can’t take off these female goggles but if a guy doesn’t want to spend his time with a woman aren’t both of them wasting their time?

No. 3 is that the woman will pretend to be sane and really turn out to be cockle doodle dooo crazy. Ummmm, yea, I’m all in on this one. There are really crazy people and then there’s really unstable people, so I get this one.

No. 4 is the guy will not be respected by the woman. Whew! Hold up. Gotta keep reading.

The article said, a wise psychologist once wrote, "In a relationship, women want to be cherished and men want to be admired. Men do want their partners to admire them. Not in a ticker-tape parade kind of way, but as a quiet nod of respect for what he does and has accomplished."

OK, I get it. Women want to be adored and cherished and men want to be praised, admired and respected.

The article continued with information on how a man doesn’t want to be criticized in front of his friends.

I can see that. Neither does a woman.

The No. 5 reason is that men think that a woman will be high maintenance. The article says she’s fussy and he is concerned that she can’t be pleased.

Again, I say, this is the wrong chickypoo. Although sometimes women need to freeze with all the extraordinary demands.

Also, women should stop worrying about their hair and nails and go hiking and get dirty. Don’t worry about which restaurant, find something on the menu where he takes you and yea stop being so danggone picky.

I found this part of the article very interesting, “Knowing what men instinctively fear can be a great way to think about your own behavior and the effect it may have on your dating life."

I often wonder why women complain about not being able to find a good guy. I’m not bragging, but I really can’t relate to this. I’ve never had difficulty in the dating department. Not when I was younger and not now.

When I was younger, the guys would lose interest after finding out I was a virgin but I would just pick up my potato chips and punch and keep it movin. LOLOLOLO

So can women actually be self-destructing on the dating scene by being too demanding and scaring guys to death or is it that men really don’t want to put in the time and effort for a good relationship?

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